THE MOST CONVENIENT ISSUE-SEXUALITY IN THE WORLD: (II)

Rule Of Attractions lasting relationships
The rules of attraction might drive our initial decisions, for better or worse. But lasting relationships are about much more than what we see and smell. Our behavior plays a key role, with biology an intriguing contributing factor. "The main theory is that some genes work well in combination with each other," "If these genes evolved to work in combination, then you don't want to break that up too much for your offspring. Finding a mate with similar genes will help you ensure this." Rushton told LiveScience.
If your spouse is genetically similar, you're more likely to have a happy marriage, for example. Child abuse rates are lower when similarity is high, and you'll also be more altruistic and willing to sacrifice more for someone who is more genetically like you, research shows.
Comedy can also help a relationship. But the importance of humor is different for men and women, A woman is attracted to a man who makes her laugh. A man likes a woman who laughs at his jokes. Eric Bressler
True love
Brain scans in people who'd recently fallen in love reveal more activity related to love than sex. "Romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences," "It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive." says Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University.
Desirability- fidelity, by Stephen Emlen and colleagues of Cornell University, asked nearly 1,000 people age 18 to 24 to rank several attributes, including physical attractiveness, health, social status, ambition, and faithfulness. People who rated themselves favorably as long-term partners were more particular about the attributes of potential mates. After fidelity, the most important attributes were physical appearance, family commitment, and wealth and status.
"Good parenting, devotion, and sexual fidelity—that's what people say they're looking for in a long-term relationship,"
Love More Powerful than Sex, Study Claims by Robert Roy Britt- Sex and romance may seem inextricably linked, but the human brain clearly distinguishes between the two. Love is the more powerful emotion.
The results of brain scans speak- "Our findings show that the brain areas activated when someone looks at a photo of their beloved only partially overlap with the brain regions associated with sexual arousal," "Sex and romantic love involve quite different brain systems." said Arthur Aron of the State University of New York-Stony Brook. The study, announced in Neurophysiology Journal.
Brain signal Left & right side
To our surprise, the activation regions associated with intense romantic love were mostly on the right side of the brain, while the activation regions associated with facial attractiveness were mostly on the left, said Lucy Brown of the Albert Einstein College of Medicine.
The processing of romantic feelings involves a "constellation of neural systems." The researchers -- neuroscientists, anthropologists and social psychologists -- declare love the clear winner versus sex in terms of its power over the human mind. "Romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences," "It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive."
The physiology of stalking behavior suggests that up to 40 percent of people who are rejected in love slip into clinical depression. "Rejected men and women in societies around the world sometimes kill themselves or someone else," Fisher said.
Scientist Finds in women by Jeanna Bryner areporter
Women have high expectations for nearly every area of their lives, but when it comes to sex, they settle for less. And most women keep their dissatisfaction with sex a secret, leaving their partners (let alone their doctors) in the dark, "Whereas men, if they have trouble with sex, it's a crisis. They run to the doctor and say 'I need something for this.' Women don't do that. They just sort of stuff it down and push it further down on the list,"
Anita Clayto a psychiatrist who focuses on women's sexuality at the University of Virginia Health System and having years of clinical experience) has compiled a vast collection of data on women's sex lives. She said, a female patient would visit her with issues like marital problems or depression, and only when directly asked about sex, the patient would divulge dissatisfaction.
She attributes several factors to a woman's lack of sexual satisfaction-:
(i) Sex gets shoved to the bottom of the "to do" list for women. And when they do have sex it becomes just another task.
(ii) Women are not getting their emotional needs met during sex. An orgasm might not be the point.
(iii) Many women strive for unrealistic physical perfection seen in the media and are unhappy with some aspect of their physical bodies.
(iv) Women don't ask for what they want in bed, fearing their partner will be hurt or leave them.
(v) Medications such as antidepressants can reduce a woman's libido and ability to reach orgasm.
What women want with her……..
Some women did complain about difficulty reaching orgasm or lack of sexual desire, but frequently they just felt an overall letdown regarding sex. Not knowing why they feel so deflated after sex, women assume it's their fault or they just don't bring up the topic to their partner. She said women don't have a clear awareness of their sexual desires because of social, cultural or religious beliefs that label such female wants as shameful. Outside pressures impact a woman's view of her body, which can make having sex even less appealing.
"Women are so obsessed with our physical appearance, and we really are trying to achieve some idealized woman's body that we see in the media. We always feel like we're lacking," Instead, they focus on the ever-growing to-do list and sex becomes another task at the very bottom of the list.
"Work and family come first. We end up putting sex low on the priority list," Clayton said. "Then when our partner initiates sex, it's just another task. I really believe that we as women accept a level of dissatisfaction that we don't need to accept."
Tips for success
To ramp up sexual satisfaction, Clayton suggests both partners can play a role. For one, women should know that the perfect body doesn't equal good sex. "You don't have to be a sexy bombshell-looking person to have great sex. It's really not about that. We might think that Victoria's Secret models have a great sex life, but their sex life is no better than anybody else's,".
A confident, sexy attitude and an openness to explore sensuality can breathe life into lackluster sex. Also, women can give a higher priority to sex, holding the laundry for another day. Guys can be more open to talking about what a woman wants in bed, to the point of initiating the conversation, Clayton said. And to make more time for sex, she said, men can help a girlfriend or wife with tasks around the house.
Status like people-
People who are socially dominant and either very friendly or very antagonistic tend to be more sexually promiscuous, according to a new study. Friendly, warm people may enjoy sharing their warmth with others by sleeping with them, whereas antagonistic people may sleep around to avoid having a monogamous relationship. And having a dominant personality makes it easier to approach potential partners.
Antagonistic people might prefer to have multiple sex partners in order to avoid being in a monogamous relationship, out of fear of being poorly treated or being later rejected by a committed partner, the authors noted in their study, which is to be published in the Journal of Research in Personality.
Patrick Markey says it’s particularly interesting that warm people tend to be promiscuous, because in some ways, it conflicts with the moral thinking that promiscuity is bad. Someone actually might be doing it as an expression of their warmth to other people,” he told LiveScience. “A warm person might hug lots of people; a warm person might kiss lots of people. Well, maybe a warm person might sleep with lots of people.”
A search report explain that people like Professional artists and poets hook up with two or three times as many sex partners as other people, new research indicates.
WORLD NEWS
Men and women attitudes in an intimate relationship- Men have been dubbed as being preoccupied with the physical aspect sex, but a new study has found that both men and women change their gender roles when they are in an intimate relationship. "Men experience a lot of pressure in our society to have sex with a number of different partners, the opposite of what women experience as kind of the gatekeepers of sexuality. Once they enter a relationship, however, the pressure on men to have sex is not as strong and the pressure on women to not have sex goes away". "People in romantic relationships give more importance to their own feelings and their partners' than they do to social expectations about sexual behavior," said Paul Perrin, a UF graduate student in psychology and one of the study's researchers.

The study, titled 'My Place or Yours?' published in the April edition of the journal Sex Roles, found that men are much more likely than women to find sex personally and physically pleasurable, while women tend to think that sex breaches social taboos. Too often, these sexually restrictive gender roles become self-fulfilling prophecies.

Conclusion
Though not as frequently talked about, gender roles also restrict men to a narrow range of acceptable sexual behaviour in the sense that others deem him immature and unmasculine if he doesn't have frequent sex," "Men in our sample appear to walk a fine line between wanting the risky sex that society says they should have and paying the price for having had it". Women were more likely to believe that being sexually active had negative social consequences. "Women endorsed at higher rates waiting longer to have sex and not engaging in premarital sex, consistent with the notion of women as sexual gatekeepers," he said. "Perhaps women are more interested than men are in waiting for the right person and the right moment to have sex."

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